The Need for Attention in Handwriting

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Look at me! The need for Attention

What does it mean when someone calls out for attention – when the need for attention becomes painfully obvious?

Is it about wanting to show off? Or is it a desire to show how clever or talented the person is? Maybe that’s part of it. But it’s really a cry for recognition.

To most people the very thought of asking for recognition is a turn off. It’s so much easier to disguise their deepest desires with diverting behaviour. But what if we happen to dig a little deeper – what do we find? Insecurity.

A cry in the dark that says; “Please notice me because I also count in the scheme of things.” Very often the cry goes unnoticed. And it is then that out of frustration the need for attention takes over.

The individual resorts to various types of excesses wears outlandish clothes, develops brash ways of communicating or buys expensive items to show off his or her possessions.

But at the bottom of every ploy for attention is something that goes much deeper. Deep down and beyond all appearances it’s really about the search for meaning – which is something that we all want.

We want to know that our lives are worthwhile. That we are on this planet for a purpose.

And so, when the need for attention becomes so loud that it becomes painfully obvious – it’s a loud signal. It tells us that the person who resorts to outlandish flamboyance is painfully aware that something significant in his or her life is missing.

It’s really a cry for help. And it is this cry for help that comes out clearly in the handwriting. You see, when a need to be noticed is so deeply ingrained in the personality that it becomes outwardly obvious, it also becomes apparent in the handwriting.

Signs that Reveal a Need for Attention

In my previous blog post, The Need for Attention, I promised that I would tell you about some of the handwriting signs that you can look for – so here they are in no specific order:

Elaboration – an ornate type of handwriting

Circular i-dots You will often find this in the handwriting of adolescent girls

Unduly large handwriting

Capital letters that dwarf the rest of the handwriting

Elaborate, important looking signatures that are larger than the regular body of handwriting.

An underscore or line beneath a signature

Now these signs observed separately and individually won’t tell you much. They are simply an indication of something that may be amiss.

But when woven into the fabric of the handwriting in such away that they are representative of the writer’s personality – they tell us what mere words cannot impart.

To find out more check out “How to find the real you”

Comments

pat johnson
June 17, 2016

Reply

You’re wrong! I use circles for “i” dots, have larger capital letters, and underscore my signature, but everybody who knows me will tell you that I’m the last person who cries out for attention. As a matter of fact, I don’t even have a Facebook page. I have no phone (cell phone or land line) listed in my real name, I avoid parties and crowds. I LOVE my anonymity. When talking to people, I let the other person tell me about themselves – and people are eager to bore others with self-talk – but I rarely give out person information about myself. Besides, I’ve always read that an underlined signature indicates self-confidence.
- Sandra Fisher
  June 19, 2016
  
  Reply
  
  Hi Pat
  Thank you for your thoughtful comments which merit an explanation. You are clearly not a candidate for “the need for attention.” But I’m glad to have the opportunity to explain something about handwriting analysis that is often misunderstood.
  
  You see, the few indicators that I listed are just that – a list. You can’t simply cherry pick a few signs and infer that they add up to a particular syndrome – in this case – the need for attention.
  
  The signs you mentioned are clearly out of context with regard to your own handwriting. I haven’t seen your handwriting but there are obviously other factors to take into consideration that would rule out this particular trait. And that is the essential point.
  
  In analysing handwriting we deal with combinations of supporting signs as well as negating signs and all these have to be taken into consideration and weighed against each other so that they end up making a meaningful contribution to the final assessment.
  
  For example, presuming that your handwriting is small or leaning to the left or widely spaced, or shows a decreasing margin or in fact any number of other possibilities; it would immediately change the final result.
  
  So the list of signs in my brief article is simply a glimpse at a few indicators to give you a taste of what is involved. But you cannot use them in isolation without an understanding of the whole process.
  
  I hope that this adds a little more clarity to my article. But what I particularly want to emphasise is that handwriting analysis is a much deeper study than would at first appear.
  
  So are we still friends? ☺