Look at me! The need for Attention
What does it mean when someone calls out for attention – when the need for attention becomes painfully obvious?
Is it about wanting to show off? Or is it a desire to show how clever or talented the person is? Maybe that’s part of it. But it’s really a cry for recognition.
To most people the very thought of asking for recognition is a turn off. It’s so much easier to disguise their deepest desires with diverting behaviour. But what if we happen to dig a little deeper – what do we find? Insecurity.
A cry in the dark that says; “Please notice me because I also count in the scheme of things.” Very often the cry goes unnoticed. And it is then that out of frustration the need for attention takes over.
The individual resorts to various types of excesses wears outlandish clothes, develops brash ways of communicating or buys expensive items to show off his or her possessions.
But at the bottom of every ploy for attention is something that goes much deeper. Deep down and beyond all appearances it’s really about the search for meaning – which is something that we all want.
We want to know that our lives are worthwhile. That we are on this planet for a purpose.
And so, when the need for attention becomes so loud that it becomes painfully obvious – it’s a loud signal. It tells us that the person who resorts to outlandish flamboyance is painfully aware that something significant in his or her life is missing.
It’s really a cry for help. And it is this cry for help that comes out clearly in the handwriting. You see, when a need to be noticed is so deeply ingrained in the personality that it becomes outwardly obvious, it also becomes apparent in the handwriting.
Signs that Reveal a Need for Attention
In my previous blog post, The Need for Attention, I promised that I would tell you about some of the handwriting signs that you can look for – so here they are in no specific order:
- Elaboration – an ornate type of handwriting
- Circular i-dots You will often find this in the handwriting of adolescent girls
- Unduly large handwriting
- Capital letters that dwarf the rest of the handwriting
- Elaborate, important looking signatures that are larger than the regular body of handwriting.
- An underscore or line beneath a signature
Now these signs observed separately and individually won’t tell you much. They are simply an indication of something that may be amiss.
But when woven into the fabric of the handwriting in such away that they are representative of the writer’s personality – they tell us what mere words cannot impart.
To find out more check out “How to find the real you“