Loneliness during the holidays
How do you deal with loneliness when the holiday season seems to be the loneliest time of the year?
Everyone around you seems to be buying presents, preparing meals and going to dinners and parties. When you feel alone it rubs salt in the wound to see so much activity and so much shopping and scurrying around.
Your only wish is that it would all go away as quickly as possible.
What are you to feel when the whole world except you seems to be bubbling with fun and holiday spirit? Your loneliness is accentuated by all this contrast with your own situation.
So you pretend to be bright and happy. But in reality you are feeling like the only person on the planet who feels miserable and so desperately alone.
But take heart. There are many thousands of people right now who feel exactly as you do. The only difference is that you haven’t met them and you don’t know who they are.
If somehow you could all get together you could have one huge bash that would put all the other party-goers to shame!
But jokes aside, holiday seasons are notorious for making people feel miserable. There are many people out there right now who can’t wait for the holidays to be over so that they can get back to work quickly and regain some semblance of normality.
The important thing to realize is that you are not alone. Many, many people are going through this very same feeling of depression this minute.
The secret lies in learning how to cope with feeling lonely.
And this means that you have to make a plan of action.
How to deal with loneliness
Firstly, realize that time to yourself can be a blessing in this overcrowded, hyperactive world.
Accept that this is the time to pamper yourself. Treat yourself to something you know you will enjoy. Buy that special something you have always wanted. Get that new book you have always wanted to read.
And recognize that this is the perfect time to get in touch with your creativity. You can express your feelings by painting, writing or playing a musical instrument.
Make definite plans to learn that new hobby you’ve always fancied; or explore an interest that has always intrigued you such as handwriting analysis. (Take a tour around this website for some tips!)
You’ll find that the very act of planning something new will lift your spirits and give you new direction. There are so many ways to exchange your loneliness for exciting new experiences.
Don’t forget that the internet has all kinds of chat groups where you can join groups of people with similar interests. Loneliness is a common problem and there are many people out there hoping to connect with others who have similar interests.
If you are concerned about the ecology you could become part of a group who go on outdoor excursions. If you like gardening you could find a group of people who enjoy gardening as much as you do. If you like origami – I won’t go on but you get the idea. The list is unending.
You could even join a charitable cause that you believe in – which has a double benefit because not only will you feel good knowing you’re doing something worthwhile but there’s also a possibility that you could meet some like-minded people who could add a lot of meaning to your life.
The bottom line is – don’t simply hide under your bed till the holidays are over. With a little change of focus you can deal with loneliness by turning this time into a valuable and yes, an enjoyable and productive experience. You only have to put your mind to it.
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