Sandra 
The need for attention runs deep within each of us. It starts early in childhood and if it is not sufficiently met with love it can persist throughout our lives.
The need for attention can manifest in strange ways and sometimes it takes on bizarre forms.
Right now, countless people everywhere are crying out for attention.
They dress outlandishly, put rings in the most unlikely places and tattoos all over their bodies.
They get onto stages and sing out their desperation to the unseen millions who clamour to listen to them and identify with them.
What is it that all these millions have in common?
They are trying to express themselves in the singing of a universal song.
And the words of the song? Basically they’re about the need to be heard and the desire for recognition.
The Fear of Obscurity and Oblivion
While we may not realize it consciously our need for attention is really a symptom of a fear – the fear of obscurity and oblivion.
Maybe we believe that if we make enough noise, we can chase away our personal demons. But in reality we know that dressing outlandishly or rapping about our woes or driving fast cars won’t allay our deeper fears.
We can only hope to defeat obscurity by finding the voice within. Because like an iceberg, the biggest and strongest part of ourselves is deep below the surface.
But we can only address that inner part of ourselves on an individual basis.
The Search for Meaning
Ann Frank at the young age of 13 found her voice and the deepest level of meaning in her diary and though she died in a concentration camp in Germany, she conquered oblivion forever.
It was Viktor Frankl who said later that our most important mission in life was to find meaning.
But we each have a different take on meaning; so that the only way to discover it is to delve deep within ourselves to find the inner voice that is capable of expressing it.
Some people find meaning in service to others. To others the answer lies in creativity. And sometimes if we listen very carefully, it can come to us lightly on the wings of a song.
The truth is that in finding our true voice we discover meaning and purpose so that the fear dissipates and the need for attention is subdued.
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Thank you for a beautiful article.
This line ~ “And sometimes if we listen very carefully, it can come to us lightly on the wings of a song.”…gave me chills.
I find that much of my inspiration and motivation comes in the form of music, images, and words so this statement strikes a personal chord with me.
What you say here rings so true ~ I have personally witnessed over and over again how the need for attention can manifest itself in extremely self-destructive behavior.
I’ve seen it so many times in my own life, people I care about doing unbelievably destructive things to themselves to attract attention or to be “loved”. Risky sexual behavior, drugs, alcohol abuse are all par for the course.
I just thank God I can be here every day for my two little girls and shower them with attention, whether they want it or not
Keep up the great work!
Thank you, Logan. Encouraging words indeed. Makes the effort worthwhile!
I love this article! Makes us remember that it’s about daily little steps to find our voices rather than one huge adoring crowd which seems to be the most popular current fantasy:-)
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Aw, this was a really quality post. In theory I’d like to write like this too – taking time and real effort to make a good article… but what can I say… I procrastinate alot and never seem to get something done.
I think graphology is a branch of psychology and can be used to detect psychological disorders. I am a graphologist and have helped teenagers through it. I use a reverse psychology of changing handwriting and personality or vice versa.
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Well, I am glad that you all seemed to have enjoyed the article. There are a lot more in the pipeline!
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I enjoyed to find this article Graphology World . I like your point of view. Thanks a lot. Cheers
Constantly helpful… regardless how many times I read this!
Your article on the personality trait of need for attention was quite insightful. As per graphotherapy what is the best solution to help a person overcome this fear ?
Hi Handwriting Analysis
Thank you for your question. However, I must point out that there is no quick fix for altering any deeply ingrained personality trait.
Firstly you have to seriously want to change and I don’t see how someone who needs attention will seriously want to change! He or she would probably want even more attention.
Nevertheless, there are some aspects of the handwriting that such a person could alter.
This would involve using a program of writing exercises which obviously I cannot go into here. But the bottom line is that there is no one exercise – or alteration of a particular letter that would give any results.
What is needed is a rather complex process by an experienced graphotherapist who has appropriate qualifications in psychology. Otherwise, there could be more damage than benefit from the exercise.
Thank you for raising an important point.
Sandra
Very beautiful and meaningful article, thank you, it resonates with my state of mind…..obscurity is a negating emotion but can be well controlled by inspiring creative activities like music, art, writing and dance. To discover our purpose of life is most important aspect and if done at an early age it can act as a catalyst to shape the future of our children.